“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Many of us are afraid of success. But we don’t often realize it. Most scientists and psychologists agree that fear of success exists for both men and women. Fear of success is similar to fear of failure. They have many of the same symptoms, and both fears hold you back from achieving your dreams and goals.
These are the tips that have helped me get over the fear of being successful and finally believe in myself:
Keep away from negativity: – Often, we can’t simply remove ourselves from toxic relationships—maybe it’s a colleague, an in-law, or a parent. When the folks in our lives weigh us down and drain our energy, it can become a daily challenge to stay positive. So what you all need to do is don’t take negative person personally, try to spend more time with positive people, remind yourself that everyone has their own journeys.
Reclaim Authenticity: – If you desire success and have the potential for it, then choosing to avoid it is a choice to be someone you are not. Recognize that you can’t be happy and fulfilled by compromising your values, goals, or integrity.
Continually remind yourself that you are part of something larger than you: Fear often has to do with worrying about uncertainty, feeling out of control, and wondering what your life’s purpose is. When you realize you are part of a bigger picture, even if you don’t fully understand what that is, it’s easier to ascertain that you both deserve and need to be successful and happy.
Accept discomfort: All change, even change for the better, involves some level of discomfort and uncertainty. We fear this discomfort will be unbearable or worse than it actually is.By accepting the inevitability of discomfort, you minimize the effects of it. And the joys of success often make the discomfort far more bearable.
Create your Success library: – Sometimes when we lose trust in ourselves we just need a little bit of inspiration to push us in the right direction. Create a library of quotes, save articles and success stories that have inspired you, create a library of inspiring movies and videos, or create an album of your fun and happy memories. Turn to this library whenever you have self-doubts.
Don’t think, just act: – Overthinking leads to confusion, “analysis paralysis,” and unnecessary procrastination. Yes you do have to think to analyze decisions and choose your best actions, but set a thinking deadline after which you must take action. Don’t allow rumination to continue indefinitely.
Celebrate every milestone: – Rather than diminishing your abilities and achievements, celebrate them. Sharing your successful milestones and giving yourself a pat of the back isn’t a bad thing. It’s a motivator and an acknowledgment of your hard work and tenacity.
The people who want the best for you will celebrate with you.